Ignoring and not listening to your friends, family, and potential customers is not the way to be successful.

Why not?

If you don't listen to them, they will feel:

– Disconnected

– See you as anti-social

No one respects another person who doesn't make an effort to listen.

Or, tries to understand them when they describe something.

You might divorce and share your children or worse.

Lose them.

Not being flexible in understanding customers might make them avoid you.

Which means less revenue.

Anti-social also means:

• Closed-minded

• Emotionally unstable

• Not speaking enough

• Disagreeing about everything/perfectionism

• Not listening

I've done this many times when my mind finds the answer faster than the person is stating their problem

Once upon a time, I drank coffee.

Together with my high extroversion personality trait, my mouth runs amok.

Running my mouth off is my left brain hemisphere high on dopamine and focused.

You see, speech requires dopamine to work.

This leaves little room for my sedated right hemisphere to use its:

• Reasoning

• IQ

• Point of view

• Realism

• Think about the future

Everyone, including me, thinks they can reason while they speak.

I'm sorry to say, but it doesn't work that way.

You see, there is a reason why discussions often escalate into arguments.

In a discussion, I'm likely to interrupt the other person's speech.

That means I'm:

• Antagonizing the other person

• Not giving them attention

• Not respecting them

• Not listening

This should be common sense to anyone, but most of us try to create a square and force it to behave like a wheel.

"Which is why I want to share this with you."

Focus on being relaxed at any given time when you're awake

Today, I've quit coffee, and I use morning light, HIIT training, and cold showers to produce cortisol to wake up.

It's a more natural and healthy way of waking up while not abusing or poisoning my body.

I quit drinking coffee for several reasons, which I explained in my article about whether coffee is healthy.

Over six months clean of coffee and I feel great.

I now meditate the first thing in the morning.

Regular meditation for 8 weeks rebalances your brain hemispheres to gain access to your human unconscious right hemisphere better and more efficiently.

Making you less of a dogmatic narcissist who only sees now and the history of things in your way.

Your ability to see into the future based on the facts you have is an ability of the right hemisphere.

When dealing with others, you need to respectfully and calmly listen so they can make their point.

By striving to be a social individual you will be:

• Respected

• Loved

• Accepted

• The one to do business with

This sounds banal, but I'm glad you're still reading and learning from my mistakes.

Life is like the ocean.

There is an ebb and flow to everything in life.

I wrote this today because I have tested many things in life to optimize it.

In that process, I have tried many new fabs without getting anywhere.

I've tried to make the square behave like a wheel.

But today I do what works.

More resources

• “Why We Love” by Dr. Anna Machin

• “The Life Of Dad” by Dr. Anna Machin

• “The Master and His Emissary” by Dr. Iain McGilchrist

• “The Matter With Things” by Dr. Iain McGilchrist