Judging Others is a Good Thing –Here’s Why
How to be OK with judging other people.
Judging other people is what all humans do naturally.
We do it when we say that he or she is better at something than we are.
As we do when we say someone is toxic to us and others.
By accepting that judging other people is normal and healthy you speed up your decision-making and learning process.
When you are doing this automatically: you've become an open-minded continuous learning individual capable of critical thinking.
Unfortunately, we are taught by the Bibel and others that judging is a sin.
Thou shalt not judge
Matthew 7:1-5: "Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?"
John 7:24: "Do not judge according to appearance, but judge with righteous judgment."
Romans 2:1: "You, therefore, have no excuse, you who pass judgment on someone else, for at whatever point you judge another, you are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment do the same things."
Luke 6:37: "Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven."
Judging others is a natural biological human decision-making process that we all use to categorize and create our mentally conscious model of the world.
I am here to show you how to use it the right way.
Here's how, step by step:
1: Judgement
Judgment is how humans make decisions to act.
We judge others if they are:
Friend or foe.
Good or bad.
Someone to keep at a safe distance.
Someone we trust with our children.
Other people judge us as well which is good and transparent.
When judging someone or something you attach a category.
We do the same when we look for items in the food market or on Amazon when we search for something to buy.
Without categorization, we would be looking for a needle in a haystack.
It would be safe to say that judging someone or something simplifies how we relate to this person or thing.
Judging helps you understand the way you have constructed your worldview or mental model.
2: Relax and listen
Most humans do not know how to listen properly.
Listening is the only way new information can be processed in your subconscious right hemisphere.
Your right hemisphere reasons and looks for implicit cohesion to make sense of the new information.
This is done extremely fast but only happens when you're relaxed.
I can prove it by telling you that you solve many problems when you're just about to fall asleep, right?
When you're angry or focused or stressed your right hemisphere is turned off and your left dogmatic, narcissistic, and aggressive hemisphere is turned on.
When you speak you're activating the speech center in the left frontal lobe.
That means that your right reasoning hemisphere is sedated with the neurochemical Gaba.
Listening is all about delaying judging by relaxing and staying in your right hemisphere as long as possible.
3: Reassess and create a more detailed map
Soke your brain with the words from the speaker and let your subconscious mind work its magic.
Delay judgment and make way better decisions in your life.
Try to focus on listening and relaxing while trying to imagine their point of view and let your brain educate you to make better judgments.
You can't control this because it's subconsciously done in the right hemisphere.
Judgments are iterative in the sense that you take in new information and retest them.
What works will be sent to your mental model in the left hemisphere.
That is how you improve your worldview and mental model of the world.
Of course, no one has a complete and accurate mental model of the world.
It's important to know that we all have a flawed mental model and that we need to be honest and humble enough to know it's incomplete and incorrect.
By learning how to listen properly we can make better judgements about what category to put an individual or thing in.
That is how a critical thinker is made.